Labor

I just relized i never posted this i just left it a draft.....


With labor day just over and Jessi about to have a baby i thought it might be time that i write a little bit about my birthing experience.. It may get a little to much for some so this is a warning to all that are reading...

Well before i wrote this i went back and re read some of my post just to remember what i was feeling before labor happened... in my blog before i went into labor...I was so excited that Perry and Crystal were going to be parnets of three in the morning and i was praying that i would not go into labor till the next week...

So that week i had gone to the DR and I was 2cm and she said you prob have till next week, but i can induce you this friday if you want i said NO i want to go natural and i will just wait it out.. So friday comes and so does Gavon at a crazy 9 pounds 8 oz... I remeber waking up in the morning and texting jessi to see if he had been born yet and he had just been born about 10 or 15 mins before that... I was awaitting pictures, and i had been having braxton hicks for weeks by now and it was just a normal part of the day by now... So i had just gotten the pictures and was on the phone with david when i leaned back a little and sat foreward in a rocking motion and felt something "come out" of me ...LOL... I calmly told david "ummm david..... i need to call you back...." with that he said why whats wrong i said i am not sure i will call you back I got up and went into the bathroom where i found that i had lost my mucus plug... Kinda freaked me out.. So before i could get out of the bathroom david called me back and said ok i cant wait what is going on i said i dont know i have snot comming out of me... ::) best way i could it explain it to someone...He said call lisa or perry and ask him if that is normal... I told him yes david is it suspose to happen but not sure what it really means... This was at ___________ in the morning my time... I was leaking and had a little bit of blood so i thought it would be a good idea to go ahead and put a pad on cause i wanted to lay down and go back to sleep.. So after i figured out what was going on and figured it could be still next week before i go into labor i just wanted to lay down and relax so i laid down and my friend jen called who had just had a baby on july 4th to see how i was doing and to see if crystal had, had gavon... So i was talking to her and while i was talking to her i felt a pain which looking back it could feel like a pop... but i didnt feel anything after that so i told her hey let me call you back i am going to go to the bathroom i moved to the side of the bed and got stood up out of bed and it felt and looked like a took the BIGGEST cup you could get at 7-11 and poured it down my legs... MY WATER BROKE and i was afraid i wouldnt know if it broke or not!!!! LOL...LOL... I went to the bathroom sat and cried for a sec and then thought i need to clean up the bedroom floor this is when i am thankful we have wood flooring...So at 1030am my water broke i called david and told him umm david you need to come home cause my water broke... He was in a high panick and he said i will be right there i have to finshe this job... I was in a pankick and then i sat down and clamed my nerves and decided i didnt want to go to the hospital right away so i called him back and told him take your time i am fine i am not having crazy contractions or anything... So i got off the phone and called a few people and then walked around the house, oh and i called the DR and told her that my water had broke and of course she said go to the hospital right away...Well i didnt listen..LOL so walked around the house for a little while and talked on the phone and when i had a contration i would just stop and breathe and then conti on. David got home at about noon and we sat down and talked about the events of the day, i showed him pictures of Gavon and then i packed the bag for our nights stay at the hospital... He did lundry and put the car seat in the car and vacumed the house and i sat down and ate some toast with jelly on it...My contractions were comming regualar but i wasnt counting to see how far apart they were...LOL i know i should have been but i didnt... So after i ate i asked david if he was about ready to take a shower cause my contractions were getting a bit stronger but nothing that bad... He said yeah and jumped in the shower, lisa called the house when i answered i think she was a little shocked to hear i was still at home i told her that we were fixing to leave and that i could call her later.. So we went to the hospital and walked in i was so proud we knew where to go and i didnt feel like a lost person ( the tour was very good idea) So we went into labor and deliever and i walked up to the desk it was about 3pm and told her my water had broke at 1030 and my dr told me to come on to the hospital, she said ok come with me to L&D room 5 so we went in and she told me to change clothes and she would be back in so i changed and laid down on the bed and i remeber the bed was kinda hard... LOL she came in and checked me and let me say this L&D nurses should not be allowed to wear perfume!!! She asked me so did your water break i said yep.. and she asked me are you sure i said YES, i told her that i had held off going to the bathroom before for more then 5 hours and not peed that much she just laughed and said well we will check to see if your water did break... WHAT??!! So she checked me out said i was a 3-4 and took a sample of something and left the room came back a few mins later and said well yep your water broke and you are staying here till you have a baby... So she hooked me to the IV and asked me some questions and then she left and then came back with some potican... David was on the phone and i was like umm why are you giving me potican i really dont want it she said oh well we want to make your contractions more regular... I didnt feel like argueing and just said whatever so she gave me the potiacian oh and let me tell you she didnt know how to put a IV in to save her ass.. She found a vain on my wrist and stuck me and then said oh it moved and instead of taking the needle out she just moved the needle around till she found it... Yeah for me...LOL So after she got my IVs in i told david he could go ahead and go home and get the dogs all settled and get something to eat and whatever else he wanted or needed to do i was tired and wanted to watch tv and just relax so he left and i called lisa to let her know that i was in the hospital and that i would be staying so she talked to me for awhile and i watched cash cab and then my contractions were getting to come on heavy and hard so i couldnt talk i told her i would call her back and that i needed to call david to get him back up there so i called david and he came back up there around 6pm  while i was waitting for him the nurse watched cash cab with me for a few mins and kept asking me if i was ok i told her yes i didnt want any drugs and she said ok... So when david got back they were doing shift change, I had just gotten use to the one nurses perfume and then in comes another smell i was like holy crap people dont you take showers no need in the perfume bath... But i was still sane and kept that to myself...  when he got back up there my contractions were nice and strong but mangiable they were getting more and more intense with each contraction i was starting to get a little on the pankicked side....So once i calmed back down i was able to watch tv and get though contraction and then about 730-745 i remeber david was on the phone and it was annoying to hear him talk i told him ok its time to get off the phone...They were getting pretty intense and i was not able to think clearly so the nurse asked me if i wanted my epidural... NO NO no epidural for me...i said but what if i do want to have one later what are my opitions she said well because your medicaid hasnt kicked in that we know of they will prob want payment up front... oh really!!! well that was more incentive not to get one... So i asked her about the IV drugs.. I said my dr told me that i could get IV drugs if i needed them and she said oh yeah i think with your dr she uses morphine!! I just said oh ok... The nurse left the room and i looked at david and said well this blows i cant get pain meds even if i want them cause i cant use morphine cause it makes me sick... So david watched me have contraction for about 20 min... They were about 5mins apart and very very intense i wouls literlly grab the side rail and squeeze till my hand turned white...and when the nurse came back in asked her what do you guys do if she cant take morphine cause she will get sick.. She said oh we have antinausous meds that i can mix with it and i will just give it to her manually and at a slow rate so we can stop it if it makes her sick... So at 830 i got my 1st shot of morphine as soon as she put it in my IV i felt the HEAT going though my body, but the pain was gone... WOOHOO so i asked david to get me a wet rag he got me a rag and i put it on my forehead and i laid in the bed and tried to stay awake, I really had a hard time staying awake i couldnt tell you if david left and if he did for how long, I know at one point he said he was going to smoke a ciggerate and then he said he came back in i started talking to him and then i woke up and said to him when did you get back... :) I slept though most of my contractions from 830 till about 10pm  it was a good drug!!!!The contractions i would wake up for david said were towardss the top of the scale.. i was being check though out this time and had dialted to about a 6-7 at that point she said ok ashley we need you to figure out if you want that epidural cause we are getting close to not being able to offer it, i had the morphine in me at the time and said nope i am good...  lol... By  10pm i had david move his chair next to me cause i needed something to grasp other then the hand rail on the bed. So he moved over and i was grasping pretty hard. i was comming up on 12 hours with my water broke they gave me anitbotics at 1015 at which time i told them i dont want to do this anymore i want a c-section i must have sounded convincing cause david said the nurse stoped dead in her tracks turned and looked at me and then looked at him and said. If she wants to stop and have a c-section we can do it i just need to know... David said no she is just talking she can do it. The morphine had wore off completely and i was not enjoying life anymore!!!! David talked to me and said if you want the epidural we will get you one of course i wasnt having a contraction so i said oh no i think i will be fine so it was said and done no epidural about the time the nurse walked out of the room i wanted the epidural but it was a no can do so when she came back in the room i said can i have another shot of morphine and she said of course they only really last for about 2 hours... at which time she said to david now this round will prob just take the edge off the pain cause her contractions are going to be getting stronger... She knew what she was talking about... She gave me the shot i got SUPER SUPER hot and wanted an ice pack so i had ice pack on my neck and a cold rag on my head i felt like i had fire going though my vains... Davids hand was a squeeze ball... I would be sleeping and then all of a sudden have a contractions wake up squeeze his hand almost in two and then cont squeezing and go back to sleep... He would wake me and said hey let go of my hand for a sec...During this round of contractions i would only sleep in between contractions they were anywhere between 5 mins apart and on top of each other... I was dialiting good but not fast enough for me.. By now time is all pretty blurred for me.. I know that during this time she would check me when i felt i needed to be checked. she would tell me almost but not yet..... I would say somewhere around 1145-midnight, i was having contractions about 2 mins apart and almost to the top of the scale... I was starting to bear down so my nurse says, She said ashley you are only a 8-9 you cant start pushing or you will burise and cause swelling... I kept telling her i am not pushing i am trying to deal with this contraction. about two more contractions after she told me that i told her i NEED to push, she said let me check you, she said ok i am going to strip your cervix/ or i at least thats what i think she told me i know she told me she had to move or remove something... So during a contraction she did something that hurt like no pain i had ever felt. If my feet wouldnt have been on the bed she may have got kicked..So after she did that she said ok ashley you are a 10 when you feel like you want to push i want you to bring your head to your chest and bear down... David said it was about 1215 am So with that i had a contraction and i began my pushing i had three contractions and she said OK i am going to call the DR and left the room...I remeber i was having contractions and i didnt know if i could push or not i had my feet in the sirups and i remeber i was trying to turn on my side to stop from pushing cause i didnt know if i was suspose to or not and when i asked david he said he didnt know... So when she came back in  she had two other nurses with her, they were getting the room ready i remeber see a table and i remeber at one point my nurse was getting the warmer table ready and i was like i need to push she said ok go ahead and came over to the bed...  the other two nurses left I was still using davids hand as my squeeze ball and he was trying to help me by telling me hold it hold it hold it hold it breathe... I remeber my cousin telling me that when i was pushing to try and round my lower back, why that came to me when i was pushing i have no idea but it did... I remeber i rounded my back and david telling me ok breathe  ashley quit pushing breathe... Finally he litterlly pushed me back so i couldnt bear down...I remeber the nurses was rubing the babys head i told her that feels good.. She laughed and said ok ashley you are going to feel TONS of pressure and then burning...Ok i felt the pressure for sure i thought i was ready for the burning i mean really how bad could it be... Oh let me tell you how bad it could be It felt like i had a blow torch between my legs she told me ashley thats the head we need a few more pushes so i conti to push and then she says to me ok i know you cant stop pushing but i need you to not push as hard i am going to need to cut this cord.She cut the cord i pushed  and i felt the head come out... Now for some reason in my head i thought i just had to deliever the head and then the rest would just come out, not really sure why i thought this... After the head came out and i thought about letting out a sigh of relife i had another contraction and felt what is that i feel oh yeah babys have shoulders too.. LOL.. in that nano sec with the next contraction i felt babys shoulders come out fallowed by a gush of fuild... I remeber i was shaking uncontrolably and i remeber she was quite i kept asking david is she ok, is she ok... he said yes i think so, about that time i heard a sound a little bigger then a mouse could make and i guess the other nurses in the hall heard it too cause they came in and said we thought we heard a baby... They came in and started doing stuff i was just laying there shaking the nurse was talking but i dont remeber what she said... So just as she was walking over to hand me the baby my doctor walked in the door and said so are you ready..... Oh you already had the baby... The nurse said yes she went fast. She said ok lets go ahead and have a look, She told me i tore a little and that i was going to need to be stich.. I said ok, i was shaking worse then a leaft on a tree and the nurse asked me if i wanted her to take the baby i said yes... David was still by my said but pacing the floor and some how remebered to take a few pictures of me and gretchen when they handed her to me... So after the nurse took gretchen the doctor said to me ok i am going to stich you up.. I said ok but my body wasnt having it... Everytime she would touch my leg i would jump... This went on for like 5 times and she final looked at david and said i think we should give her a shot of morphine david said yes and they got me a shot... As the shot was going in i remeber telling david he could go ahead and go smoke a ciggerate... Things get blurring agian here for me cause of the morphine... I know at some point i called my Best friend gretchin and told her and that i remeber david telling me that perry said congrats.. I think... i know when he came back in the nurse said she was going to get me cleaned up and ready to go to postpardum When david came in he asked if i was hungrey and i said yes... i remeber then getting into a wheel chair and being wheeled across the hall and meeting the postpardum nurse...i remeber that bed was SUPER softer then the L&D bed... I remeber david comming in the room with food and then me telling him he could go on home he needed to sleep and check on bentley...So i ate and right as i was finsheing up eatting they brought gretchen in to me.. The nurse went over breast feeding with me and then left the room... I was pretty well in the right state by now and it was about 330am 345am... Gretchen and i would take quick little 10 or 15 min naps... At one point at about 530-6am the nurse came in and i was laying there with gretchen in my arms and watching TV it was the hunting channel they were hunting elk... The nurse came in and said and i quote" oh hunny i am so sorry why didnt you ring the button when the remote quit working" me with a dumb look on my face said "huh?" She said i will change it for you want would you like to watch... I said " umm this?" I still didnt understand what she was saying and finally she said you want to watch this?! I just laughed yeah i turned it to this... LOL So before she left the room she asked what excatly are you watching i said with a lite laugh behind it... I am watching elk hunting.. She just looked at me with this werid look and walked out of the room..With her gone it left me and my new baby girl in the room to cuddle and watch a awsome bull elk on TV...


Well thats my story of my labor and delieverly.... I would have to say that although the pain was by far the worse pain i have ever had i am glad i did it without the epideral...and although i dont plan on having anymore i would do it the same way agian....  OH YEAH BTW I UPDATED MY BLOGGER AND NOW CANT FIND THE SPELL CHECK!!!!!!! So sorry...